I had a female boss once, whose negative energy seeped into my own. She tried to take away a bonus which I earned (and then some), but the CFO told her she couldn’t do that. A boss who got angry after someone bought a roll of paper towels for $5, after she just bought a $300,000 yacht and had a downpayment on the unreleased Tesla. She immediately called a meeting with me after she saw my LinkedIn update – a freelance writing job with Paste Magazine, in which I would do when I got home from my miserable 9-5. This woman called it unprofessional and said she was very unhappy that I was doing it (you know, instead of being proud of me and congratulating me as a fellow female hustler). She claimed she “made me who I am.” No, she just made me never want to be someone like her! By calling me family, she knew it would persuade me to work by butt off for her. She wouldn’t allow me to drink the seltzer water at her house, after commuting an hour and a half to work for her (one way).
I allowed her to make me second guess my worth, day in and a day out, so I stayed for far too long. After getting over the guilt for feeling like I needed to be loyal to her and her family, I finally resigned after 3 years of torment. She told everyone she fired me. She’s since then, gone through 6 assistants.
But yet, I had to listen her, and do what she told? (I think the kids nowadays would say “GTFOH”). Get away from bosses like this…AS FAST AS YOU CAN.