Feb
The Ultimate Valentine’s Day Gift: Self Love & Confidence
Valentine’s Day is a time when love is in the air—romantic love, friendship love, and, most importantly, self-love. While the world focuses on couples and grand gestures [and *sigh* — the time we’ve been conditioned to take stock of the love we have in our lives], the most important relationship and best love story you’ll ever have is the one with yourself.
If you’ve ever struggled with confidence or self-worth, this holiday can feel like a reminder of what you don’t have. But what if you flipped the script and made it a celebration of you? Learning to love yourself is a journey, but Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to work on that!
Here’s how to deepen your self-love, build confidence, and recognize your worth—because you deserve it. Valentine’s Day doesn’t need to be a day we hate. 
1. Look at Yourself in the Mirror—In Lingerie
Yes, this might sound uncomfortable at first, but trust me, it’s a game-changer. We spend so much time criticizing our bodies, avoiding mirrors, or only looking at our “good angles.” But true self-love means embracing yourself as you are, every lump and bump or roll. In order to become more comfortable, we must look at ourselves.
Try this:
• Put on a beautiful set of lingerie or even just a bra and underwear that make you feel good.
• Stand in front of the mirror and really see yourself. Instead of picking yourself apart, find things you love—your curves, your strength, the way your body carries you through life.
• Remind yourself that your body is not just something to be judged—it’s your home, and it deserves love.
The more you do this, the less uncomfortable it will feel. Over time, you’ll start seeing yourself through a softer, more loving lens.
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2. Speak to Yourself Like Someone You Love
We often say things to ourselves that we would never say to a friend. And if we heard our friends talk to themselves the way we sometimes talk to ourselves, we’d be so sad and would try to make them stop! The negative self-talk, the comparisons, the harsh criticisms—none of it helps. Our bodies believe what we tell them.
Try this:
• When you catch yourself thinking something negative about yourself, pause. Would you say that to your best friend? Would you be okay if your friend said it to herself? If not, change the narrative.
• Replace “I’m not good enough” with “I am worthy just as I am.”
• Say affirmations daily, like:
• “I am beautiful.”
• “I deserve love, kindness, and respect.”
• “I am enough.”
• “My body does so much for me.”
Your words have power—use them to build yourself up, not tear yourself down. this takes practice.
3. Treat Yourself the Way You Want to Be Treated
Love isn’t just something to receive from others—it’s something to give to yourself. And quite frankly, more important than any other kind of love. The way you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you, too.
Try this:
• Buy yourself flowers or a gift, just because.
• Take yourself on a date—go to a restaurant, a museum, or even just a solo coffee shop visit.
• Indulge in self-care, whether that’s a bath, a good book, or an at-home spa night.
You don’t need someone else to make you feel special. You can do that for yourself, starting today. And if you’re waiting or expecting someone else to do this for you, you may end up disappointed.
4. Stop Waiting for “Perfection” to Love Yourself
So many of us think, I’ll love myself when I lose weight, when I have clear skin, when I reach a certain goal… But self-love isn’t a reward for “fixing” yourself—it’s something you deserve now, in every stage of life.
Try this:
• Make a list of things you love about yourself that have nothing to do with appearance. Your kindness, your resilience, your humor—these are things that make you you.
• Accept compliments without deflecting. When someone says, “You look amazing,” say, “Thank you,” instead of brushing it off.
• Practice gratitude for your body. It carries you through life every day—it deserves love, not criticism.
5. Surround Yourself with Positivity
The people and environments around us can either lift us up or tear us down. Choose very, very wisely.
Try this:
• Follow body-positive and confidence-boosting accounts on social media. Seeing diverse beauty and self-love journeys can be inspiring. Get rid of the accounts you constantly compare yourself to. Keep the ones that inspire you.
• Distance yourself from people who make you feel less than worthy, even if they are family. You don’t owe anyone your energy if they don’t uplift you.
• Fill your space with things that bring joy—photos, music, books, and reminders of your worth.
Final Thoughts: You Deserve Your Own Love First
This Valentine’s Day, remember that love isn’t just about romance—it’s about honoring yourself. Confidence isn’t about being perfect; it’s about embracing yourself, flaws and all. The more you practice self-love, the more natural it
becomes, and the more you’ll believe it.
So stand in front of that mirror. Look at yourself with kind eyes. Speak to yourself with love. And most importantly, know that you are already enough.
What’s one way you’re going to show yourself love this Valentine’s Day season? Let me know in the comments—I’d love to hear!
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x
Merideth